Sober Sundays

Sundays to me represent the start of the week, I’ve made it sober through another weekend (hell yes) , I am meal planning and I start my day with meditation and yoga, and a cappucino.  Sunday is my luxury day and all about me.

BUT……since I’ve become sober I am also usually beyond angry on Sunday morning, my husband is  an active drinker he’s been up 2 or 3 times in the night to pee and woken up the house, last weekend he was obnoxiously loud drunk falling down asshole and I slept in the guest room (of course he promised to change – he hasn’t) When I was drinking that’s when the nasty arguing would ensue.  I am glad he is out of the house working most Sundays it allows me to process my anger and sit with it and work through it.  As most Sundays I cannot stand him.  I know I’m not the only one who deals with this.  It’s hard to admit that you can’t stand your spouse sometimes.  Marriage is tough.

Here’s how I deal with my over drinking spouse.

  1. Remove yourself from the situation, do not risk your sobriety ever
  2. Have a hobby so while he’s drinking, you are busy, I was scrapbooking last night
  3. Acknowledge your feelings it’s ok to be angry, sad, resentful as long as you don’t hang on to it.
  4. Talk to someone (I never believe feelings should be bottled up)
  5. Be grateful it’s not you drinking
  6. Know you can’t change anyone else
  7. Go for a run, go to a park, yell scream get it out.
  8. Talk to him about getting help because you love him, but never the night after drinking
  9. Lead by example
  10. Remember you are not better than him, you are only ever one drink away
  11. Do what you love, do not let a drinkers hangover affect your day.
  12. Treat yourself (watch a movie you want to, paint your nails, go shopping, make your favourite meal)
  13. Do not overthink his drinking stop the hamster wheel, meditate.

 

This is literally what I do.  I have just finished my yoga and meditation and am watching 27 dresses!

 

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